Seeing the title of this entry should clue everyone into my very first “Coffee With Krystal” post: relationships. Now, most of you probably think that I’m here to talk about dating and all things being in love, but for the few of you who have continued to read, first of all, thank you, second of all today’s your lucky day. I’m probably the least qualified person to talk about dating, so I won’t. Instead, we’re going to talk about the relationships almost everybody in the world can relate to, family.
Grab your mug, and let’s get to the first part of the “Relationships” coffee talk.
We’re starting this series here because even if you’re not close with them now, you have at one point or another had a relationship with family members. Quick backstory: I have two biological siblings, three step-siblings, two parents, and two step-parents. Aside from the “immediate” family, I am very close with much of my extended family which is way too many people to list in this post. Let’s just say I have a lot of experience with family.
My immediate family drives me crazy. I’m not talking about the kind of crazy where I’m actually kidding and we are always hanging out, laughing, and sharing the love. I’m talking the kind of crazy that makes me want to move away and change my last name. Okay, that seems a bit dramatic, even for me, but now you know we have a way of pushing each other’s buttons to the extreme edge. If there is one thing I’ve learned from all the chaos of fighting, loving, hanging out, being annoyed/annoying, and everything else my family can manage to do in a 24 hour time period, it’s that having a good relationship with your family is one of the most important things you can do in life.
I always tell people my parents are my best friends. They naturally laugh and think that I’m kidding, but I’m not. Now, I don’t always want to sit around and hang out with my parents discussing whatever the topic of the day is, but I go to my parents for all the best conversations.
My mom is a listening ear for anything heavy on my heart or anytime I think I’m just not good enough. She’s there for my good times and the times where the Devil himself has just awoken within me and destroyed everybody’s feelings in his path. She has taught me the true essence of giving to those in need. We definitely don’t always get along, but my mom puts up with all of my crap, and I just don’t know how to phrase that any differently. She is by far my biggest fan and supporter, but she is also a great parent. I’m still disciplined when I do something wrong. She helps me learn from my mistakes to create a better future. If I can urge anyone to do anything through what I write it’s to call your mom and tell her you love her. She deserves AT LEAST that.
Moving forward to my dad. I should probably start with the overwhelming truth that I look like my mom, but I am my dad through and through. My favorite part about my dad and I’s relationship is that we can make each other laugh like no other. We have the same sense of humor, and I am forever grateful that we share it. Another thing I am forever grateful for is what my dad has taught me about service. His service is to his country and his daughters. He helped create an amazing life for us before he even knew there would be an “us” when he chose to better himself by serving his country. One of the final lessons that I have learned from having a great relationship with my dad is to be tough. Life will throw a lot of curveballs your way, but he has always told me to “toughen up buttercup.” This has helped me to put on a brave face for others in trialing times.
Like I said, my parents are my best friends, but we don’t always see eye to eye. This is where my lovely sisters come in. I’m honestly being way nicer already on here than I probably am to them in person. I am extremely tough on my sisters, but I believe that the relationships I have with them are one in a million.
I often tell my older sister that she is too dramatic, but she has taught me to work hard and to fight like hell while you do. I look up to my older sister because she works for 100% of the things she has. She teaches me to clap for myself once in a while and to be honest about my feelings. She has finished nursing school and finally accepted her first real job all in less than three months time. She is a go-getter and a true influence.
My younger sister and I started becoming closer when I would drive her from my mom’s house to my dad’s. We would often sing along to our favorite songs, and this somehow would open our conversations. Having a relationship with my younger sister reminds me that people change. I see so much of my old self in her, not bad, but I realize how much I changed from her age to now. Also, she teaches me patience, one because she is so patient with my bad attitudes, and two she reminds me to be patient with her.
Now, if you’ve made it this far into the post, thanks once again. I knew that this segment would end up containing longer posts, but I believe it takes a lot to talk about this stuff! Like I said, having a relationship with your family members is one of the most important things you can do in life. They were there in the beginning, and if you do it right, they’ll be there till the end.
Krystal, With a K
Having a good relationship with your family is one of the most important things you can do in life.